Children usually feel unhappy because they think that they can’t do something that other kids can or that others do not like them. To work on this, greet the other children in the center when you drop off your child so that they will start coming up to you and your child to say hello. Make plans for playdates with the children from the center as the more involved your child becomes with his or her peers, the less likely they’d feel inferior or disliked.
When it comes to potty training, don’t stress out too much over something that you really cannot control. Potty training should be a pleasant experience and by stressing over it, the longer it will take. It is very important to discuss this matter with your childcare provider. Whatever method you are using for your child, the provider should also be willing to use as differences may create confusion for your child. If the provider cannot follow through, there is no point in pursuing potty training at this time. What is really needed here her open and honest communication between parent and provider.
Another issue on child behaviour is their attachment to a single staff or provider at the facility. Some kids develop close bonds with one of the providers, and sometimes, they would scream and cry when the carer is not around. What happens when a child starts to get clingy is that the other staff or teachers cannot calm the child whenever their favoured teacher goes out? You may find your child still crying and yelling at the top of his lungs when you go and pick him up in the afternoon because the teacher he liked had gone home from her shift. Though others may try to keep him calm and stop the crying it may never work.
With this sort of problem, the only clear solution to take is to change the child care arrangement. The child’s behavior of attaching to only one carer is a personality trait that is not something they will easily outgrow even if the mature out of the associated behaviour. You may first consider home daycare for your child until he or she is a bit older. This way even if he bonds with the provider, he would not feel felt out when he leaves.
Providing what your child needs to be safe and happy is the way for him to mature at his own pace and accept the changes to teachers and routines. You have to remember that it is a big challenge for your child to go to someone who is not his mom but does all the things mommy does.
Until your child reaches preschool age, he will not really understand differences in roles like the way his teacher steps in for Mommy. Once they are in preschool, they may still show this kind of behavior so a smaller setting maybe applicable. For some kids, this behavior stays even until regular school where one teacher is the norm, so they settle in quite nicely. There is not much to worry about this issue as long as the needs are being met emotionally.
Children need and want to have rules. A nurturing adult earns a child's respect by being firm and fair in ways that remind children than they are protected by a steady and protective wall of reasonable limits surrounding them that keeps them safe. Kids don’t really need anger and retaliation. Anger can be a frightening emotion than can cause people to lose control. Nurturing adults should never hesitate to enforce appropriate rules fairly and firmly.
For more:
How to start a daycare Center by StartADaycare.org
